After that day, your life is never the same. "That day" is the day the doctor tells you, "You have cancer." Every one of us knows someone who's had to face that news. It's scary, it's sad. But it's still life, and it's a life worth living. "My Cancer" is a daily account of my life and my fight with cancer.

August 27, 2008

Leroy's War

Every question Leroy asked was important. When he sat with his doctors and discussed treatment, rarely did he accept their suggestions at face value. He had questions, and ultimately he'd say, "What else have you got?"

For some doctors, this didn't sit well. But as you'll see in today's blog from Hopkins radiologist Dr. Joe Herman, Leroy's questions will provide better answers for future patients.

Leroy was a very successful war correspondent. He would leave his family and friends for long periods of time and travel great distances to cover wars throughout the globe. Often he would risk his own life to bring the reality of war and hardship to those at home in the U.S. and abroad. While other reporters would stay on the fringes where it was "safe", Leroy would travel into the war zone where even armed soldiers would fear for their lives... He was determined to tell the real story about war.

In 2001, he was diagnosed with early stage rectal cancer. He underwent surgery to remove the tumor, and he went back to work. Then, in 2005, he developed blurry vision. CT scans showed that his cancer had come back and had now spread to his brain and lungs. He had surgery to remove the tumor in his brain, and was sent to me in January of 2006 for whole brain radiation therapy.

I distinctly remember meeting Leroy. He was a cancer patient, but he was still a journalist. Only this time, he was reporting from the trenches of his own war ... his war on cancer. Although I did not know it at the time, I now realize that we (the doctors, nurses, and other health care personnel) who cared for him may have been similar to the soldiers and civilians he would interview in the war zone.

I explained that he needed whole brain radiation. Why? he asked. While most patients would take my explanation at face value and accept the radiation, he persisted. What are the side effects? What happens if new lesions appear? Can I get more radiation in the future? What are my other options? His inquisitive journalistic nature persisted.

Only this time, it was Leroy's war, and he wanted to make sure he would be able to continue reporting as long as possible. He was concerned that whole brain radiation might decrease his memory and cognition. We discussed the potential risks and benefits of whole brain radiation, and after we addressed his questions, we decided to delay the treatment and start chemotherapy.

This experience and many more over the years have taught me the importance of educating patients and listening (very carefully) before making final treatment decisions.

Over the next few years, Leroy received chemotherapy and radiation therapy to many body sites from another physician in our department. I saw him in passing one day when he was waiting for his radiation, and said hello. Soon after, I was flipping through the channels and saw his Ted Koppel special on TV. Leroy was again reporting about his war. He was presenting the bitter truths about the war, his war, on cancer. His comments about his struggles were poignant and, to some, maybe controversial, but they were honest.

Dr. Meyer (his medical oncologist) asked me to see Leroy again for some palliative radiation to his spine. By this time, his disease had progressed. He was clearly losing the war. Like a strong soldier, he had suffered through many hardships, including chemotherapy, radiation, and radiofrequency ablation of lung nodules. He had had brain and spine surgery. He was often in pain and required medicine that caused confusion and constipation.

Despite this, in his trenches for the final time, he reported on his war. Thousands logged on to his blog daily to hear about his war on cancer, and were amazed by his perseverance and determination to survive despite his suffering. He fought cancer with the same pride as the soldiers he had reported on over the years. He was determined to win, despite the cost and suffering that it might cause him. He was an inspiration to others fighting the war on cancer, including me.

Leroy and his wife Laurie invited me over to their home for dinner about two months ago. I have to admit, I don't usually have dinner at my patients' homes. I am not sure why I don't, but for some reason, the doctor/patient relationship often doesn't leave the hospital.

I had grown quite close to Leroy and Laurie, like many of my patients, and was very intrigued by both of their life experiences. He was a war correspondent, and Laurie was a sports reporter in an era when women were not very welcome in the clubhouse. Both of them survived very hostile environments.

As I ate nachos (great salsa) and sipped wine, I listened to their stories and memories from over the years. I was so impressed by their relationship. How strong their bond remained, despite being away from each other for long periods of time. Laurie explained that sometimes the only way she knew he was still alive was if she saw him on television on the evening news. Leroy shared stories about risking his life in Iraq and the death and suffering he saw in Rwanda.

It was then that I realized we shared a common bond. We both met people daily where the space between life and death may be very short. Leroy met soldiers and civilians in war zones where they knew that life might be cut short by an attack. As an oncologist, I meet patients daily who have terminal cancer, and whose deaths may be imminent.

Knowing that the people in front of you may not have long to live changes you. It makes you appreciate every minute you have on this earth, and inspires you to make a difference. Although Leroy was losing the war on cancer, he was still determined to make a difference by sharing his story.

Leroy also shared with me how we (the doctors at Johns Hopkins) had succeeded, and how we had failed. While he was very happy overall with the care we provided, he specifically stressed, "It's very important to listen to the patient and explain what to expect with each treatment. For example, the radiation table is very hard and the room is very cold. It seems like a basic thing, but to us patients it is a big deal."

Lance Armstrong often says that you can beat cancer if you fight hard enough. Unfortunately, for some patients, no matter how hard they fight, the cancer is destined to win the war. This was the case for Leroy.

Although he has left us, he has left a legacy. His final report on war -- his war -- is one that has touched all of us. I know I am a better doctor for knowing him, and will continue fighting this war for him.

-- Laurie

 
August 26, 2008

The People Who Make It Worth It

I've worn a "Cancer Sucks" bracelet since Leroy was diagnosed and made his first trip to Hopkins. I've always thought those two words said it all.

I also think a bracelet that says "Chemo Sucks" would work, too. The only thing that made it OK to visit the Hopkins chemo treatment room was that Leroy and I would see Pierse Byrnes. She was Leroy's chemo nurse.

But that job description doesn't do her justice. She was so much more than that. Pierse would take the cancer out of the room for Leroy, and when you're in for chemo, that says a lot.

Secretly, I don't think she'll ever forgive him for winning that basketball pool ... read on, you'll understand what I'm talking about.

Every year, purely for entertainment purposes, of course, our clinic organizes a pool for the March Madness Men's Basketball tournament. Participants run the gamut from nurses, doctors, social workers, technicians, and an occasional patient.

Two years ago, after finding my own tournament entry form peaking out from behind a copy of his labwork, Leroy decided that he would like to participate. Which is funny, because Leroy, as far as I knew, really didn't like sports. Our discussions of sports (and Laurie and I had many) typically involved Leroy laughing at my fondness for certain Ravens and Orioles players.

I spent considerable time researching before completing my 3 brackets; Leroy completed his in 3 seconds. Naturally, Leroy won the entire pool that year. Naturally, I placed about 85th out of 110. Not bitter at all, I handed him his winnings in coins.

I tell this story, not to bring to light illegal gambling at Hopkins, but to bring to light my relationship with Leroy. As Laurie said a few days ago, throughout his treatment, we had some really good times.

People often ask me, how do I do my job? And my response is, I LOVE my job.
I love meeting and getting to know my patients. People such as Leroy make me want to come to work every day.

The inevitable question that often follows is whether I own stock in Kleenex. Not quite. (Although, ask anyone in my family and they will tell you, I am the family Crier.) My tears are often not for the patient so much as they are for the Lauries, the Kays, the Lizs, Mindys, Dan Jr.s, and the young Alexandras of this world - the family members left behind who have lost their best friend, their rock.

You see, I believe that Leroy is in a better place. He has joined my army of guardian angels and is currently laughing at my new-found interest in Olympic swimming, and puzzling over my yearly obsession with fantasy football.

And Laurie is here, understanding said obsession, but so sad that her best friend is not here for her to attempt (once again) to explain it.

-- Laurie

 
August 25, 2008

'The Wizards Of Hopkins'

Leroy spoke many times about how lucky he was to have the best medical care
as he made his decisions fighting this beast.

So we thought it was time to hear from the men and women I call the "wizards of Hopkins." The talented doctors and oncology nurse who not only cared for him, but really "cared" for him.

Today's blog comes from Leroy's oncologist, Dr. Christian Meyer.

"Why did you get into the news business, Leroy?"

"Because I knew I could change things."

We were watching the opening ceremonies of the Olympics. In a pause during his running commentary on the fashion choices of many countries, I asked him a question I had always wondered about.

Thirty-two months prior to that night, I had met him in an exam room where he told me a story most people hope they never have to share. He had had a brush with cancer 4.5 years prior to the meeting. Cancer was discovered on a colonoscopy and surgically excised, and then Leroy moved on back to his life. Never gave it much thought after that instance. He had had early stage disease, and surgery was curative in almost all people. Unfortunately, he didn't fit into that category.

During that first meeting and through many others, there were many questions with few real answers. There was always a plan reached through careful discussion, but no real answers ... just more questions. With Leroy, it wasn't the questions or the lack of answers, but the honest discussion that was important.

Along the way, he decided to do what he always did ... tell stories. And in the process, I believe, changed many things. He and Laurie gave a voice to a disease that can be shrouded in the mystery and fear that are perpetuated by silence. They shared their journey, their battles, their humor, and their anger. They shared the reality of living with cancer.

He is finally at peace, but I hope his spirit never rests. The world is a much better place with Leroy Sievers in it. Many people came to know him, respect him, love him, and most importantly, learn from him. In the aftermath of his life, his lessons remain in those of us who knew him. If we continue to propagate them, he remains alive in this world.

Mary E. Martin, in a poem entitled "Loss" wrote: "It's hard to make room for what is no longer there."

I don't think I'll ever be ready to make room for the absence of Leroy. I hope the dialogue he engaged us all in continues from chat rooms to living rooms to exam rooms.

Keep finding your voices; keep telling your stories; I know he'd like to hear them.

-- Laurie

 
August 22, 2008

The Leroy Of My Dreams

Today was picture day. I went through hundreds of old photos.

A long and winding road of snapshots that made up some of Leroy's life. Great times with friends. Birthdays he shared with my sister. Images of him hunkered down in the jungles of Central America or in the sand of Operation Desert Storm, dressed in camouflage and looking beat.

There was the shot of him at the door leaving for work. It wasn't just any old day. It was his first day back to ABC and" Nightline" following his colon cancer surgery. The first day of the rest of his life.

But the best pictures were from our Halloween parties. His costumes were legend.

Gumby. The six-foot five version. He spent the day in the garage cutting out the Styrofoam shape and painting it green.

There were the Linda Tripp and Janet Reno years. Those meant trips to Bloomingdales, to the "full-figured woman's department" to buy two 22 wide navy blue suits. Something "slimming."

I remember he really didn't want to wear the pearls, but I convinced him it completed the outfits and softened those size 13 sneakers he had on.

He worked for days on the Dolly the Sheep costume. We still have Dolly's mask.

The pictures from Maui are my favorites. He looks strong and tan and rested.

That's the Leroy of my dreams.

-- Laurie

 
August 21, 2008

Stopped In My Tracks, It's A New World

I live and breathe sports. My television career started in the sports department. I've covered five different Olympics.

Leroy and I were hooked on watching the Beijing Games. In fact, his oncologist was over for the Opening Ceremonies and we had fish tacos and key lime pie and had a great time. Leroy's appetite was still good and he really enjoyed himself.

We watched a lot of the events day and night and then he died.

And it's all changed. I haven't even turned on the TV. In fact, most of the things I'd squeeze into the day while Leroy was alive, I haven't done. The desire just isn't there.

33 months and 7 days of cramming as much life into each day as possible and now I'm stopped in my tracks.

It's a whole new world.

--Laurie

 
August 20, 2008

The Scars Of Cancer

I call them the scars of cancer. When you're in the fight, they serve a purpose. Bed pads, commodes, walkers, all the things that are supposed to make life a little easier for the cancer patient.

But when they are no longer needed, they are ugly scars, unwanted reminders of the battle you've fought and lost.

I look around the house now and can match up the equipment to the timeline of Leroy's struggle ... a painful calendar of objects.

I think tomorrow, it's time to clean house.

-- Laurie Singer

 
August 19, 2008

Keep Lifting... Just A Little Longer

To you all....

Many months ago, when Leroy was spending time in the hospital, I had written in the blog how we should all count to three and LIFT. Leroy needed that help then, and who better to "lift" than all of you.

Now, it's my turn to ask that you count to three again and LIFT ... but this time, it's me who needs the support.

I've read your messages filled with so much compassion and love, and I can tell you they help so much. Could you keep "lifting" me just a little longer ... please?

-- Laurie Singer

 
August 18, 2008

Memorial Fund

Hi All,

Laurie sent us this information regarding Leroy's memorial fund:

Leroy Sievers Memorial Fund
Johns Hopkins Kimmel Cancer Center
Patient and Family Services
100 N. Charles Street
Suite 234
Baltimore, Maryland 21201

 

An Update

Laurie asked us to tell you how touched she was by the incredible comments and messages of sympathy this weekend, and how grateful she is. She was overwhelmed by them. She will write a post herself soon, but is not ready to do it yet.

-- Maeve McGoran

 
August 16, 2008

Leroy

Leroy Sievers

On the eve of the Iraq war in 2003, Leroy prepares to leave for his embed joined by Alex and Francie Bruckner.

photo credit: NPR

Dear friends:

I'm so sorry to bring you this news. Leroy passed away last night. It happened very quickly.

You will hear from Laurie later. In the meantime, please let me tell you something all of you already know, how much this blog and all your comments have meant to Leroy. He felt all the affection and good wishes and strength you sent him every day. He told us that of the many things he had accomplished, he was proudest of My Cancer. The connection he felt with all of you made such a difference in his life.

I feel so privileged to have had a chance to work with Leroy and call him a friend. All of us here do. We will miss him so much, just as you will.

If you'd like to, please leave your thoughts, remembrances, anything you want to write here. I know Laurie will read them. I know you will keep her and Leroy in your thoughts and prayers today.

--Maeve McGoran

 


   
   
   
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